I would like to share with you how we can incorporate a morning prayer routine with our children.
There is no other topic which is as close to my heart as 'praying with children'. I find it extremely beautiful to watch a relationship starting to grow between God and child. The best part is that we, as parents, get to play a vital role in building up that relationship between our children and God.
When my oldest was around 3 years old, I wanted to help him pray and get to know Jesus. Other than taking him to church for Holy Mass, I wanted to give him the opportunity to start off the day with Jesus. That is how I came up with the idea of introducing a morning prayer routine with children.
Our first prayer table 7 years ago |
Something which started off very simple 7 years ago has now become a huge part of our lives. Our day begins with Morning prayer. It is absolutely lovely to know that, everyday my children and I will sit together singing words of praises and thanksgiving to God.
Few questions you may have asked yourself or wondered about are:
Do young children have the capacity to pray and to live in relationship with God?
Is it only something we value and therefore impose on children?
Does religion enrich or complicate their lives?
When I started this journey of morning prayer with my 3 year old son, I noticed how much he enjoyed singing songs and hearing stories which I read out to him from the Bible. It started igniting a spark in him. Throughout the week, many of our day to day activities also started pointing us back to these stories. When it was hard for him to share something or clean up his toys, I could always bring back stories from the Bible as examples and help him understand what God wants from us. At just 3 years old, he was able to have a conversation with God through his broken sentences. The way he would repeat the two lines of thanksgiving songs during our prayer time was just adorable to watch. In fact, it helped me to grow in my relationship with God by seeing this tiny little body loving God. You can read about our morning prayer I blogged about back when George and Anna were babies here.
I recently became a certified Catechist for a Montessori based religious education program called Catechesis of the Good Shepherd (←click this link to find out more). Some of you may have heard of it and some of you maybe sending your children to attend this program. Attending this two year training to become a Catechist really helped me to understand and grasp the bigger realities of building up this relationship with children.
Sofia Cavalletti, founder of Catechesis of the Good Shepherd writes in her book called The Good Shepherd and the Child (A Joyful Journey):
"Young children have a natural ability to enjoy their relationship with God in a very deep way. Children are capable of enjoying the presence of God; they are able to give themselves totally to God's love. It is only before the age of six that children are completely inside this joy.
How important it is to realize this. If we can enjoy the presence of God in our life, then our faith is established on the only sure foundation. Perhaps it is only when we enjoy God's love, only when we enjoy God's presence in our life that we really have a vital faith, like Abraham's, something rooted very deeply in our life. If we are not allowed to enjoy God's presence, then there is always effort and struggle in our religious life; if there is only that, it may mean that something is missing in our spiritual life."
Ultimately, through this morning prayer routine we are giving our children a space to enjoy the presence of God. By enjoying that freedom they have with God in the small prayer space we provide, faith is beginning to take root in our children.
Now, how are we to do this? Let us come to the practical steps.
Let us first set up a prayer corner in our house to have our morning prayer. If you already have a prayer table in your family where you pray, then you can use that as a space for your morning prayer.
It is important we provide an environment suitable for prayer. If you don't have a prayer corner, you can set it up in the most simple way. A small table with a sacred image, such as an image of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, or the Mother of God with the child Jesus. Our prayer table has a statue of Blessed Mother, the Crucifix, small iconic pictures of the Holy Family, and our Lady of Perpetual Help, Syro Malabar Cross, Candle and few other things that get added based on the feast days of saints etc.
Our Current Prayer Table |
First, begin by setting up a time that would work for you and your child. A good preferable time would be right after breakfast. We definitely don't want young children to be praying with hungry stomaches. 😄
You can invite your young or older children to come and sit with you as you slowly guide them by singing a song or reading a story. Using a bell to invite the children to prayer is also very helpful. The bell brings a different ambiance for the children just like at church the bell is rung right before Holy Mass begins.
Children always get attracted to stories and if they have a hard time coming and sitting down with you, picking up a small story book, preferably a religious one would be very helpful. If they are below 3 years of age, I highly recommend not forcing them to stay seated. Even if they are walking around or playing, I usually sit near the prayer table saying a few simple prayers or singing a song of thanksgiving.
You can find bells at Thrift Stores or Goodwill |
Children always get attracted to stories and if they have a hard time coming and sitting down with you, picking up a small story book, preferably a religious one would be very helpful. If they are below 3 years of age, I highly recommend not forcing them to stay seated. Even if they are walking around or playing, I usually sit near the prayer table saying a few simple prayers or singing a song of thanksgiving.
A song that I sing with them just to settle them down is "The more we get together, together, Together the happier we will be". I just end the song by mentioning each of their names and we end it.
It would be nice to start off by blessing yourself and your child with the Sign of the Cross. If they already know how to make the Sign of the Cross, encourage them to do so at this time. There is no need to make the little ones say the words of the Sign of the Cross if they don't know it yet. It would be enough to just encourage them to make the gesture. There is a Sign of the Cross song I sing with the kids which is taken from the Brother Francis Video Series called Lets Pray. The small songs always help the younger ones.
As you begin the prayer, lighting a candle will help you and your children to come into the presence of our Lord. I remind my kids that Jesus is the light of the world and the candle reminds us of Jesus's presence with us. It would be nice to have a separate tray or basket to hold the lighter or matches to light the candle. Also using a snuffer to turn the candle off would be a great addition to have because it brings such curiosity and a reverence to the whole prayer time. You can find it on Amazon which I have linked here but you can also find it at Dollar tree.
I leave a small clay bowl to keep the used matches |
You can sing songs like "This little light of mine" or "Father we adore you, lay our lives before you" during this time.
Young children's prayer is usually prayer of thanksgiving and praise. After the Sign of the Cross and the lighting of the candle, we move into a time of thanksgiving. I ask the children, what are they thankful for. You can encourage them to say one or few things they are thankful for. It would be nice to start off by you (parent) giving thanks first. For example: I thank you Lord for the beautiful weather or I thank you for my family. The depth of the prayer will slowly increase as you make this a routine. I have to warn you that sometimes the little ones will have so many things to thank God for and they will go on and on. I also sometimes sing a thanksgiving song which goes like this
"Thank you God for giving me 'my mom'
"Thank you God for giving me 'my mom'
Thank you God for giving me 'my family'
Thank you God for giving me 'dad',
right where we are"
Sometimes singing helps more than uttering the words for little ones.
Once everyone gives thanks, ask them if they want to pray for someone or something. You will be surprised by how much they can express to God through their little words. It is better that we don't try to change the way they are praying or give them any ideas. As long as they are not being silly and goofy and trying to be a distraction, just keep going at their pace.
I also take this time to read a parable or a passage from the Bible. I invite them into a listening stance and I read the text solemnly. I offer children points of reflection in the form of wondering together, to evoke their own response to the parable. They may not have anything to say and we don't want to force them to say anything either. It is also helping them to think while they are not responding. The wonder questions could be like "I wonder who the good shepherd is" or I wonder why Peter wanted to walk towards Jesus as he saw Jesus walking on the water etc". There need not be any response for these wonder questions. The capacity to wonder is natural in the young child.
Through this prayer time, it is not only the child that is growing but our own prayer life. We are also listening to God's word with children. I have to say that lot of times, their prayers and the way they thank God touch my heart so much that the rest of my day is made better by their small acts of love towards God.
If a saints feast is celebrated that day, we use this time to talk about that saint either from the saint book we have or by looking up that saint online and ask the intercession of the saint.
If a saints feast is celebrated that day, we use this time to talk about that saint either from the saint book we have or by looking up that saint online and ask the intercession of the saint.
The childrens bible and the saint books I use |
We end by surrendering our day to Jesus and Mary. We also sing a hymn to Blessed Mother as we end our prayer. Always feel free to change up the structure based on the needs and wants of your children. If the baby is cranky or one of the toddler is having a difficult time and is creating a ruckus, I will shorten our prayer time and end right after the thanksgiving prayers. I also try to always keep the prayer time to around 15 mins maximum. There is no set way of praying with children. The above order I gave is just an example and something I have been following with my children.
This prayer routine has been consistent in my family for the last 7 years. The prayer I started with just George, my oldest son when he was around 3 years old has now three more little ones, Anna, Mary and Elizabeth. It is always fun to watch them pray and how their style of praying change as they grow older and some remain the same whether they are 3 years old or 9 years old, haha!
We don't need to worry about the kind of prayer our children make, rather allow them to be free before their God. They don't have the inhibitions and lack of trust we as adults experience. We are just being the mediators between our children and God. Let God take care off the rest.
There are times when the kids can be distracted and may show disinterest in joining prayer. I always insist that they sit along with us if they are old enough to understand it. But with younger children below the age of six are always brought in through reading stories aloud or singing songs which will eventually bring them towards the prayer table. Also let this not be a rigid prayer time we force upon the child. Let us first give the control over to God and offer this desire in our hearts and pray for few days before we begin this prayer time with our children. There will always be hindrances but be consistent and keep going forward. There is no better gift than giving Jesus to our children at a young age.
I hope this will help you build up a morning praying routine with your children at home. Let me know if there is anyway I can be of help to you.